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๐Ÿคธโ€โ™€๏ธBecoming Fit for Life #006: The Judge, Relaxation, Happiness

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This week in building health

The main enemy: My Inner Judge

I have always strived for excellence in my life

After all if I couldn't be the best, what was the point of even trying? And so whether it was school, sports, or service- I always gave my 110%.

But I fell into a trap: My inner voice became a perfectionist judge

The Perfectionist Judge is my greatest internal enemy, and it causes me much of my stress and unhappiness.

It's always looking for what is wrong, it's overly critical, and it makes it hard for me to enjoy life.

How my judge literally causes me pain

In a previous issue, I wrote about how my chronic pain comes from stress and anxiety.

And a lot of that stress and anxiety comes from my Perfectionist Judge.

It's always there, telling me that I'm not good enough, that I could be doing better. It's a never-ending stream of criticism and judgment.

And that constant stress and anxiety takes a toll on my body. It manifests as physical pain.

Practicing health by dealing with my inner judge

One of the healthiest things I can do is to practice dealing with my Perfectionist Judge.

  • I need to learn how to quiet it, how to not take its criticisms so seriously.
  • I need to learn how to let go of perfectionism and just enjoy life.
  • I need to connect with people, and be vulnerable about my struggles to break its power.

That's what I'm working on. It's a process, and I'm not perfect at it. But I'm getting better.

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updates on The FitforLife System

This week, I had an insightful chat with my friend Shruthi. (You should follow her on Twitter, she's awesome)

She inspired me to set up my newsletter page so that you can read back issues without signing up.

I didn't want to have to migrate to another platform like Substack, so I'm glad I was able to figure it out on my current platform.

As always, thanks for reading and supporting my work!

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my favorite health things this week

โ€‹Relax and Win by Malcolm Gladwell (podcast)

As some of you may know, I am a huge fan of track and field.

This week I enjoyed 2 track and field treats:

1. The world championships just wrapped up

โ€‹(And the Philippines won its first medal ๐Ÿ˜ฑ)โ€‹

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2. This episode by Malcolm Gladwell (who is also an athletics nut)

This episode is all about one key idea: That you perform better if you just relax!

This may seem counterintuitive, but when we grit our teeth and push ourselves to the limit, we actually put our bodies under more stress.

This can lead to us making mistakes or not performing at our best.

However, if we relax and trust our training, our bodies will be able to perform at a higher level.

This is an idea that can be applied to many different areas of our lives, not just sports.

So next time you are feeling stressed, remember that it might be better to relax and let your body do what it is trained to do.

You might be surprised at the results.

โ€‹The arrival fallacy: why we should decouple our happiness from our goals (article)

When we set goals for ourselves, we believe that achieving those goals will make us happy.

We do this all the time:

  • Losing 10 pounds will make me feel better
  • Finishing a marathon will make me feel accomplished
  • Starting a new exercise will make me stay active

But that high only lasts for a while, and eventually fades

The next time you find yourself setting a goal, ask yourself: Is there a way I can make the process a source of joy too?

The Need to Win
by Chuang Tzu


Thanks for reading.

Be well this weekend,

Javier